Some people experience various stages in their lives when they refrain from social activities. In some cases, this may evolve into an ongoing fear of many social situations. There could be several causes for this, including just a temporary period with a need for some solitude and self-reflection. In other cases, it could be more persistent and could be driven by a lack of confidence, self-esteem or fear of embarrassment.
In some cases, if the social resistance persists, if could be social anxiety, and depending on the persistence, it may be a good idea to seek counseling. In many cases it may have been a condition or habit that has developed over time.
As many of us know, having a balanced life, and achieving well-being is one of the keys to happiness and success, and social activity is often a good way to balance your approach to life. Most people have room for improvement in their confidence and self-esteem levels, and getting a personal tune-up, through self-work or coaching can help you gain a more sure footing.
There are some effective things to try to get you back into more social engagement. Often you can discover effective coping strategies for yourself, resulting in reduced reluctance of new situations.
Some Strategies to try:
- Start with baby steps – consciously attempt to engage with others on a semi-regular basis; someone new at work, church, or from an old group of friends. You don’t need to do it for 3 hours, try 5 or 10 minutes at first.
- Don’t view a social event as a lifetime commitment, you can go to an event, and leave when you want. Plan this ahead, and then test it out. It works! The more you understand you are in control, the easier it becomes.
- Set up some other mini challenges for yourself by doing some spot behavior changes (do something differently).
- Make a note, after doing something different 4 or 5 times, does it seem more natural? If not, Don’t beat yourself up, keep working it.
- Whatever you try, observe your behaviors, and don’t expect perfection.
- Congratulate yourself on small gains, small gains will evolve into larger gains.
- Spend time doing and learning things you enjoy, this all leads to more positive feelings about yourself and others.
In summary, take some small steps, don’t expect perfection, practice good self- care (hygiene, exercise, nutrition, sleep, life-engagement etc.). This all leads to Less Stress. Less stress leads to more happiness and success.
